Uh...not quite, Rich. I dropped Drew off this morning and despite my best efforts to distract him with stuff to do after kisses and hugs, he still followed me outside the classroom for another kiss and a hug. He was crying, so we had a little chat about whether he wanted to go back to Wendi's, and he said he didn't know. He's just not used to walking into a room where none of the kids say hi and get excited.
Heck we were walking in at the same time as another kid and his dad and it was one of the kids Drew was saying he's kind of friends with and the bugger wouldn't even acknowledge Drew! How rude! The kid actually ran ahead and avoided Drew. Kids are so mean.
Anyway, I'd say he's making some progress, but that I'm still concerned that this is crushing his natural optimism a little. It would be one thing if he was hanging out with just kindergartners all day, but because there is such a mix, I don't think he's found his space yet. Plus, it probably doesn't help that the teachers kind of dote on him because he's so cute and articulate. Damn it, I knew there had to be a downside to making him speak in full sentences.
That being said, he still wants to go and is enjoying the novelty of having a backpack and packing his lunch and all that big boy stuff. So progress is being made. It's just a little slower than we'd like. At least we're dealing with all this now. And by the time we have to do it again in six weeks when kindergarten starts, we'll already be over the parental empathetic rejection complex.
Ice cave
6 years ago
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And he'll be leagues ahead of the other kindergartners. He can help the other kids get acclimated in the fall and will feel empowered from that :) It will be ok. It's probably harder on you and Rich than on Drew. Plus, Drew learning how to deal with these interpersonal issues now will make junior high and high school sooooooooo much easier and that's when kids get REALLY MEAN. I know... cold comfort! He's a trooper and he'll come out on top!
Not to be harsh, but he'll learn to suck it up and get over it if you do. Got to do it 3 times now...gets easier. The kids who have the issues the longest are the ones whose parents can't walk away.
And while at this age kids can be mean, they often aren't doing it on purpose (like in high schoool). And usually the one who was snubbed gets over it way sooner than you will.
And if worse comes to worse, just beat up their mom and/or dad for being such a lousy parent... ;) That'll learn 'em!
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